Friday, 25 September 2015


After twelve years of schooling, two years of junior college and four years of engineering I have just 1 friend in touch from all of these. No being friends on facebook is not "being in touch" but whatsapping once a week is definitely "being in touch". I don't even whatsapp anyone else.

So you see how well equipped to give you advice on college. This is not sarcasm, I did spend all that time reading, watching, thinking and analyzing so you skip this post at your own risk.

Initially I thought I should only target this post towards the introverts as they will be the ones most benefiting from it but I guess the rest can still take something good out of it. And to be more specific my advice would be geared towards men but I guess women can learn something too. Also factor in I went to college in Mumbai, India.

The Friends Conundrum

Now that you have seen my friendship skills, I think it would be safe to say this is indeed a tricky part. Should you befriend the studious nerds or the cool group? How many do you need? Is just one enough?(no) Are you going to have a cool group like they show in the movies?

— Keep the old friends close

Especially the chick friends you had in school. They will be going to other colleges and  chicks always end up making a lot more chick friends and this will be good practice for your game. Of course make sure you don’t complicate things with the chick friend itself, and that you are always on her good side, get in touch with your beta for this one—be her brother if you have to. If done right, with all the other advice on this blog you should easily get to fuck a few of her friends. It will also help if your SMV is a lot higher than her, so her other friends(the ones you wanna fuck) will be even more “understanding” of your betaness with her.

— The core Friends group

Go straight to the back benches.

As soon as possible, surround yourself with a core group. Don't fall for the BS of being "above groupism", or "i'm friends with everyone" or any other, you will be crucified for your individuality(unless of course you're elon musk). This core group should be a generic mixed gender group. Lay some special emphasis on the term "generic", these people should be the "easy to talk to" types who have simpler tastes in music, movies, praying types, simple stupid bollywood stuff, fifty shades of grey and all that.

Don't try to fit into or find a group of people who have fine tastes like you in art, literature or whatever, no, that's wrong, such people are always at odds and equally snobby and will despise you. It'll always be a game of upping one another, but the easy to go core group will in fact appreciate your refined tastes provided you drop them small bread crumbs and reveal your true self slowly and steadily and not vomiting all out about how much better you are than them.

Here you need to forget some stuff your parents and society thought you and listen to me.
They told you that the nerds will help you study hard and excel and you will score your way to a million dollar job and a great life, well you are heading straight for this.

If you can make it work so that your core group is also a cool guys group it’s a win win, they are the ones who will have chicks around to fuck, life skills to learn from, plans to party, traveling to do and study plans when the time comes. The nerds are all gonna be just scoring good for the exam but you know what, that is not enough. Not for a well rounded adult life.

Go read the post what is fun, fun is important in the limited time you have in college. Fun means different things to everyone as in “different folks different strokes” which I will cover in another post. For the college part for now you will need the cool group friends. And to make them you must. .

Demonstrate Higher Value

This core game principle is as true for the rest of your life. All human interactions are mere transactions where you give and receive value. Nobody tells you this and I am not talking about your parents and family but your "close friends" are in on this scandal too. This truth is often espoused in the "he's fun to hangout" line. The other end is a girl telling you to your face "you're kinda boring and all nice and all na" while comparing you with two other dudes who just threw her ID card up and got it stuck on a tree branch(doesn't feel great at all).

DHV starts with your appearance(see next) and it goes on with not arguing politics, not bringing up taboo topics like religion too often, being in touch with the latest shows and movies and the usual stuff, having opinions with which most people agree and never ever pushing to convince anyone of anything you think you are totally correct about. Read that How to win friends book by dale carnegie — twice.

Workout and Look Good

I'm not being shallow. In fact your parents and almost the whole of society is being stupid telling you that clothes and looks don't matter. It's right there with the stupidest advice on earth "just be yourself" or "all religions are the same".

Clothes do maketh the man, so don't fuck this up or you are gonna end up in a very sad place both at college and in life.

Parents, society and culture give you that kind of advice because they all have a very basic plan set for you, one which doesn't include being a millionaire, a healthy sex life nor a six pack. Culture is simply an amalgamation of thinking patterns of the majority which is not going in the direction of being self sufficient rational individuals but of feelings and emotions which set the bar extremely low and rationalizing things with "sex dying after marriage is normal", "fat people just got different bodies and are not to be blamed", "going bald at 26 is the norm in today's fast paced work life".

Why culture is the way it is is another post, coming back to your wardrobe now, do invest in good branded clothing and shoes. And for them to fit well do follow a rigorous weight lifting program with a proper diet. Also worth pointing out, telling someone to "dress well" often is an arrow directed straight to the listener's ego and elicits the "this is not good" or "this is good enough". At the same time we all have our own preferences to what well dressing is, but even after taking all of these into account there is an objective metric to gauge people's style of wearing clothes especially in india where jeans and kittos seem totally an viable option for job interviews to a lot of guys. On top of that the choices indian men make in shirts, tshirts are complete fucking joke exhibit: green shirt with strips of light green flower petals for work! Best you learn from movies and if need be go wander outside some of the best clubs you know for a course in casual dressing. Google is always around too. I'll try to add some pics soon.

Be a part of the college environment

College environment is like no other you will ever come across in your lifetime. It's always bustling and so much is happening all the fucking time—games, events, fests. Be a part of it wherever you can and soak it all up. That standard nagging parental voice in your head is going to tell you, this will affect your studies, it probably will—a little. You shouldn't care about that anyway. Would you care for the 5% more on your mark sheet more than all the opportunities to grow, beat your anxiety, get famous(and hence laid) for that? I hope not. Fuck that 5% in favor of the 500% growth you get.

Don't tell me the events are stupid and boring, I know. That's one reason I stayed away in favor of nobler pursuits like reading. It was a mistake(not the reading idiot, that's more important), always invest your time in building social capital wherever you are in life and college is simply good practice.

Manage time

As you should have understood by now you have a lot to do—read a lot, watch a lot of movies, make friends..text them, call them, meet them, be involved in the college life, workout, eat right, earn some money, juggle chicks like this, travel(no not to the fucking college but the other vacation type travel) and study.

It’ll all be very easy if you find a morning hour college, mine was afternoon(jesus fuck don’t get me started).

You can keep your weight lifting to 1 hr sessions 3-4 times a week. If you get up at 5AM and go to the gym and this part is taken care of splendidly. Just stop watching TV and reading the newspaper(no no it doesn’t make you smart) if you haven’t already. A lot of you waste lot of time on sports too, just finish it off by watching the best shots on youtube, if you have the inclination to watching full matches something is very wrong and you are looking for an escape from your life. You can do the “spending time with friends” part by bunking those stupid lectures(keep track to get to whatever percent is mandatory). Take some time off by “falling ill” and use the time to do your daily study, trust me you don’t need to attend those fucking lectures at all. Don’t join classes, christ how much money and time can be saved . . but we are never taught to study on our own using our books(and minds) so most of you will be wasting time there no matter what anyone says.

Don’t be wasting time texting or chatting with girls and following the “be friends first” mentality..yes it may work at times but still ideally you should be pushing for one date and the should be making out by the second. Also don’t waste time travelling to meet her anywhere, make her come to you, even better if it’s right to your place(hint: the building terrace is an amazing spot at all times).

Saturday, 5 September 2015

The Intricacies of Sadness

Feeling sad is such a powerful experience, yes it definitely is an experience especially when you really take the time to feel it and let it float around there(your solar plexus) for awhile and not jump up to click on that next link to whatever to drown it.

I got back from taking a trip with a friend to Goa and Pune, the goal was to improve our game and get laid and slay . .which didn't work out for either of us but we had some fun, the change of places is just good somehow. 

So being sad in here comes from the fact that I failed at my game which then reminds of me of other things I am currently very bothered about. As I was spending the time with this sadness I thought I should take notes for a post on this. Sadness is not a single emotion or feeling, it works together with a lot of other things, anxiety, bad memories and experiences and fear of being stuck where you are forever or for a really long time, fear that you might give up and a strange twinge of "time is running out".

Add to that not taking action or enough action and in my case daydreaming. 

Feeling teased by other people's success was never or maybe used to be a problem I guess, now I am over that. I have spent enough time in this life analyzing capitalism and now other people's success just feels good for everyone—the real greater greatest good there is.

Like all other things in the human body there's definitely a physical component present, some hormone or chemical. No wonder that on days when I lift the sadness is to a minimum and everything just feels great, hopeful, the challenges of life seem beatable. 

So what made me sad you ask?

I am failing at game, stuck in a low paying job where I am not learning new skills, got exams to clear and courses to attend to move further in my career, got to find a better job to both learn and earn better, my old outdated smartphone is just a pain to use and to replace which I have no means, my wardrobe looks so poor, don't feel like leaving the house, just realized paying for the exams is going to be a hassle in itself too. And in the long run I want to move out of the country for work.

This is not to vent my problems, this is just an example to make you understand what a set of issues would look like, sure you got something worse going on for you this. And if you are into game, then this is practically your life.

Now going back to the how sadness works from above: 

  • anxiety - guess this is just coming from the game part, where i still get AA talking to random girls.
  • fear - that the above will always be the case or for a long time, similarly the same goes for my job change and exam plans
  • experiences - negative ones, both mine and others which offer nothing more than just "could have done this instead of that" streams of thought.
  • "time is running" - this now is giving me an idea for a new post, so i'll link it when that's up. 
  • action - you could be taking action but not the correct action or you be taking the simplest form of action just to keep telling yourself that you really are moving mountains. This is tricky. Or you could be taking action to solve one of your problems which requires easier action than the other. Like i am investing 2hrs daily in the gym post work to meet my physical goals and patting myself on the back for it, while i am aware as of this writing i need to invest time in studying to clear the certification exams which would demand a little unpleasant action on my part like studying.
  • daydreaming - this i am sure is a serious fucking issue for me and for many others. This is when i get back from the gym on my weight lifter's high and play ACDC's HELL'S BELLS and 2PAC's wonder why they call you bitch while watching a movie about how glorious and amazing my future will be in a high paying job in some western country where after work i'll be slaying < decade older chicks after work and sending them home by 22:00 because I gotta read a little and sleep by 23:00. . best by 23:15. And this adds to sadness when you see on the watch that you were only daydreaming for past one and a half hour while you could have invested it in a better way. 

Understanding sadness is enough for one post, i'll keep overcoming it for another. The one word hint is : Plan.